The Samaritans 24/7 Crisis Hotline: 212-673-3000 or click here to visit their website.
When you call Samaritans you will be greeted by a warm and caring volunteer trained in active listening and providing emotional support who will ask how you are doing today and explore with you the thoughts and feelings you are having tied to what is going on in your life at the present time. He or she will also discuss with you the reason for your call and whatever challenges or difficulties you are facing and the anxieties or depressive feelings you are having without giving advice or expressing their own personal judgements.
United Way 2-1-1: Call 211 on your phone or click here to visit their website.
United Way 2-1-1 provides free and confidential health and human services information for people in Minnesota. We’re here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to connect you with the resources and information you need. Whether you are in crisis, or need a little support, we’re here to help. Just call 211 or visit www.211unitedway.org.
Bloomington/Richfield Grief Coalition. Churches in the Bloomington-Richfield area are working together to provide free support and education for adults who are grieving the death of a loved one. Click here to visit their website.
Books & Publications
Forever Ours: Real stories of immortality and living from a forensic pathologist, JanisAmatuzio
This book presents heartfelt accounts exploring the realms of visions, synchronicities and communications on death’s threshold. Told in the voice of a compassionate scientist andmedical expert who sees death every day, these stories convey the comfort the author has found in what she sees and hears. (New World Library, 2004)
Beyond Knowing: Mysteries and messages of death and life from a forensic pathologist, Janis Amatuzio
The author explores the wisdom the living might find in her accounts and shows how that wisdom changes lives. (New World Library, 2006)
The Journey Beckons: Reflections on the way of the cross, Mary Ellen Ashcroft & Holly Bridges
A collection of reflective writings by historic and contemporary writers on the fourteen stations or events of the cross. The reflections help the reader when hurting, grieving, or feeling lost. (Augsburg, 2000)
Loss of Dreams: A special kind of Grief, Ted Bowman
This booklet was created by request of the speaker following a public forum. It is his spoken version intended to be used as a conversation with the reader to continue to reflect on the loss of dreams. With encouragement to continue dreaming new dreams that fit life now and in the days ahead. (Copyright 1994)
Andrew, You Died Too Soon, Corinne Chilstrom
One of the few books that tackles the horrors following a suicide often laid upon the grieving by well-meaning religious people and religious communities. (Augsburg Fortress, 1993)
At the Death of a Child, Donald Deffner
This book addresses the emotional, physical & spiritual anguish bereaved parents experience and communicates the hope found in the Gospel. It provides encouragement & comfort and discusses baptism in an honest biblical manner. The book also includes prayers. (Concordia Publishing, 1993)
Helping Children Grieve: When someone you love dies, Theresa Huntley
This book will help you listen to children, answer their questions, and guide them in coping with their feelings when they lose someone they love. It includes help for dealing with behavior changes often accompanying a child’s grief. (Augsburg, 1991 & 2002 editions)
Finding Glory in the Thorns: Hope and purpose in life’s painful seasons, Larry & Lisa Jamieson
The authors recount their incredible trials in attempting to help their third daughter survive debilitating health and developmental issues. The book provides and inspiring lesson for all who are seeking to understand life’s lessons and relationship to God. (Ambassador Publishing, 2008)
How it Feels When a Parent Dies, Jill Krementz
A moving and insightful book about what it means to children when a parent dies. Eighteen boys and girls, 6-17 -years-of-age, speak openly, honestly, unreservedly of their experiences and feelings. Their stories are recorded so children experiencing the loss of a parent may know that others have felt the same anguish and guilt, confusion and anger-and that these feelings are normal, even appropriate. (Alfred A. Knopf, 1981)
A Time to Mourn, A Time to Dance: Help for the losses of life
This book explores significant losses including grief that comes with death, divorce, unemployment, and other important losses that may impact one’s life. It looks at how it feels and how it affects our lives and the lives of those around us. It allows the reader to find meaning in grief and coping strategies that help lessen the pain and promote healing. There is an extensive chapter on where to turn for help when the burden of grief is too much to carry alone–finding a support group, national support resources, and a bibliography.
What Will Help Me: 12 things to remember when you have suffered a loss & How Can I Help: 12 things to do when someone you know suffers a loss, James Miller
These books are a two-in-one publication. The purpose of What Will Help Me is to lead the reader through days of grief with as much comfort and security as is reasonably possible. The other side, How Can I Help, provides 12 suggestions for what we might do and ways we might be when someone we know has suffered a loss. Each step in each side is presented in a two page layout.
Our Greatest Gift: A meditation on dying and caring, Henry Nouwen
The author takes a moving personal look at human mortality. He shares his own experiences with aging, loss, grief, and fear and gently and eloquently reveals the gifts that living and dying can give to one another. (HarperSan Francisco, 1994
How we Die: Reflections on Life’s Final Chapter, Sherwin Nuland
The book relates the ways most of us are likely to die and, in doing so, suggests how we may live more fully and meaningfully. The author, a distinguished surgeon, describes the mechanisms of cancer, heart attack, stroke, AIDS, Alzheimer’s disease with clinical exactness and poetic eloquence and with the sensitivity of a man recalling his own intimate losses. (Vintage Books, 1993)
A Book of Comfort: When you are suffering, Alvin Rogness
This book is for times when the reader needs words of assurance and encouragement. The short chapters describe stretches along the road that the author and the reader have traveled-many times rejecting God’s comfort, trying to go it alone and sometimes puzzled by the comfort God seems to give. (Augsburg, 1999)
Praying Our Good-Byes: Understanding the spirituality of change in our lives, Joyce Rupp
Letting go of what we cherish is one of the most difficult things we ever do. This book can be a personal guide to accepting our inevitable goodbyes and reminds us that when we are suffering the most deeply, the seed of hope still lives within us. (Ivy Books, 1988)
The Message of Job: A theological commentary. Daniel Simundson
The book of job shows how condescending and superficial attempts to comfort someone who is suffering can be. The author combines theological and pastoral concerns throughout the book of job. This book is a useful resource for caregivers. general readers. study groups. and biblical classes. Academic Renewal Press. 2001)
Faith Under Fire: How the Bible speaks to us in times of suffering. Daniel Simundson
The author shows how the Bible can speak to the universal human experience of suffering. He examines various biblical responses to suffering and explains what the New Testament can add to such basic works as the books of job. Ecclesiastes. and prophets. (Academic Renewal Press. 1991)
Five Cries of Grief: One family’s journey to healing after the tragic death of a son. Merton & Irene Strommen
A journey through shock and grieving to coping with loss. The book goes beyond telling the authors’ story to identify the sources of healing that helped them cope with each facet of grieve. (Harper Collins. 1993)
Heaven: Your real home. Joni Eareckson Tada
Do you wish you knew more about what awaits after this life? This book offers a refreshing and faith-filled picture of the glorious destination the Bible promises for all believers. (Zondervan. 1995)
A Gift of Hope: How we survive tragedies, Robert Veniga
A moving. beautifully written book that gives the reader the understanding and self-assurance to overcome the anger and loneliness. the suffering and pain of a personal travail: the loss of a loved one-any loss in life. A practical and inspirational guide to help express sorrow and begin the process of healing. (Ballantine Books. 1985)
Mourning into Dancing. Walter Wangerin
Defines the stages of grief. names the many kinds of loss we suffer. shows how to help the grief-stricken. gives a new vision of Christ’s sacrifice and shows how a loving God shares our grief. (Zondervan Publishing House. 1992)
Good Grief, Granger Westberg
This book expounds a healthy. Christian attitude toward grief. It encourages feeling rather than suppressing your emotions and allowing Christ to help you work through your suffering. (Fortress. 1971 and large print Augsburg Fortress. 1997)
Field Notes: A geography of mourning, Sharon White
This book is the author’s map back to finding herself following the untimely death of her husband. (Hazelden. 2002).
The Critical Moment: How personal crisis can enrich a women’s life, Margaret Wold
A genuine help to anyone facing the anguish of work through a personal crisis. (Augsburg. 1978).
Suicide, Why?: 85 questions and answers about suicide, Adina Wrobleski
An easily read question-and-answer format. For general public, caregivers and professionals, and suicide survivors. Readers may go directly to the area of most interest or read only the questions to get an overview of the most recent knowledge about suicide. (Afterwords, 1989)
Where is God When It Hurts, Philip Yancey
An inspirational best seller for over 25 years, this book has been revised and updates to explore the many important issues that have arisen during that time. This unique book discusses pain-physical, emotional, and spiritual-and helps the reader understand why we suffer from it and how to cope with our own and that of others.
Letters from the Land of Cancer, Walter Wangerin
The author offers these letters to answer questions about what it means to live well and die well. Life and death are presented as a testimony to faith, love, and hope. (2009)
Confronting Death, Walter Wangerin (DVD)
Drawing from his experience with cancer, the author presents a Christian approach to the end of life. As faithful people, we can approach death with hope and peace. (Paraclete, 2009)
Children’s books in the TLC Library
What Happened When Grandpa Died?, Peggy Barker
This book presents life and death in terms a child can understand.
My Grandpa Died Today. Joan Fassler, Human Sciences Press Inc. (Copyright, 1983).
What Happens When We Die? Carolyn Nystrom
Children will see for themselves the reasons people die.
What’s Heaven? Maria Shriver
This is a story of a little girl whose great-grandmother just died. She seeks answers and her mother helps her learn about heaven.
Other resources outside the TLC Library
A Grief Observed, C. S. Lewis
In this book author Lewis writes about how one’s faith is affected by the loss of a loved one. A classic. (Copyright, 1989)
Winter Grief, Summer Grace: Returning to life after a loved one dies, James Miller
This book offers relief to anyone experiencing such a lost; done through reflective text, color nature photographs and suggestions for healing activities that can help survivors cope with the grief and begin their lives again. (Augsburg. 1995)
Cry Until You Laugh: A practical approach to grief and death. Richard J. Obershaw, MSW, LlCSW
An extremely helpful, practical book on grief and its many facets. The author shares his observations, thoughts and insightful analysis, coupled with many case histories to illustrate major points. This book is of practical value both to those going through a grieving process and those professionals who deal daily with people who grieve. (1992)
Grief. Grace & Glory, Marie Sundet
This book is an account of the author’s niece, Patrice’s, journey with gliobastoma multiforme, a deadly brain cancer. In the foreword, the author writes “I write this account of the life of one experience with brain cancer. It conveys grace and glory as well as grief. Patrice was a shining example of how to live and how to die.”
Scripture to turn to in times of grief and loss
Stillbirth or death of a newborn
Anxiety. Apprehension & Fear
Romans 8:31-35, 37-39
II Corinthians 4:6-9
Isaiah 43: 1-3a
Impending death or irreversible illness
Anger. bitterness. self-pity. turmoil
Acceptance of inevitable death
II Corinthians 4:7-18
II Corinthians 5:1